This would seem to most that this fall into an apostasy should come as a surprise. However, if we read scripture, this fall into apostasy is exactly what the Lord said would happen just prior to His return. At first glance, a believer should rejoice in these times knowing that the Lord will return soon to make all things new. I do rejoice, yet I believe that if we have a heart for the Lord, we cannot but feel sadness and pain for those who are lost and will remain lost.
As believers, we should live in the righteousness of Christ. We should hate sin, but love the sinner. We need to be salt and light. This witness in our lives must include both grace and truth. When I see confessing believers say that God recognizes homosexuality and that we should embrace same-sex unions, I cannot help but feeling anger and disappointment for these apostate people. Yet, all this pales in comparison to the blindness those who believe in divorce and remarriage.
Perhaps the saddest realization of this redefining of marriage is the destruction it causes to the family unit. Many see same-sex marriage creating a perverted view of gender roles and social structure for generations’ to come. Yet lost in all this is the untold destruction that divorce and remarriage has already inflicted on society. I personally believe that divorce and remarriage has done more for the rise of evil in the family than any other device the enemy has used over time. I will argue that divorce and remarriage destroys lives for generations to come. If we take into account that divorce and remarriage directly effects the individual lives of those who experience it…then we are ready to do all that is in our power to end divorce and remarriage.
I have written many blogs on this subject and every blog supports the fact that God hates divorce and that all remarriages are unlawful. What God hates more is the after effects of divorce. In fact, God has a word for every “remarriage” after divorce. This word is “adultery”. If we seriously have a favorable view of remarriage, we would have a foundation that is not on the rock…it is a foundation on sand. No greater evidence is this when I see or read stories of families struggling in remarriage. There are thousands of ministries on recovering through divorce and remarriage. The majority of these have caved into believing that divorce and remarriage is acceptable in certain instances. This is a foundation of sand…
The past few weeks I listened to a few ministries that support blended families. I want to be up front and clear that there are legitimate blended families through widows and widowers who marry in the Lord (1 Cor 7:39) However, most of these ministries account for “remarriages” after divorce. These ministries cause more harm than anything they can add that will make us believe it is truth. In other words, these ministries will use information that not only stands contrary to the word of God, but these ministries will make the listener believe that their “remarriage” is acceptable by the Lord.
If these ministries do not stand on the rock as a foundation, they simply cannot give us good, sound, and truthful advice. This is the most deceptive tool of the enemy. If we are not wary of our adversary, he will devour us. The enemy has already entered into the pulpit of denominations that have caved into accepting no-fault divorce. These men and women twist the word of God to believe that marriage is not until death. Once this happens, the enemy can redefine marriage on other levels.
When I hear these false messages of restoring blended families, I cannot help to think of those who stand on the truth of God’s word. Imagine if you will the parent who has to deal with a spouse who left a marriage and divorced according to the laws of man. This prodigal spouse then remarries someone else and demands that his or her children recognize the authority of this new stepparent. The biological parent, that never wanted a divorce in the first place, is now faced with a reality that his or her children have a stepparent. God calls this unholy union adultery. Thus, these stepparents have no authority over these children.
This is difficult enough it were not for the fact that there are ministries that acknowledge these false unlawful marriages. Ministries like Focus on the Family and co-ministries Smart Stepfamilies support thousands of these unlawful marriages. When I attempted to expose these false ministries by giving the example that, what God hath joined together let no man separate…They respond believing false teachings on MDR, then they ignore me and then they block me. They will not respond in truth because they cannot respond in truth. These ministries are instruments of the enemy and they are deceiving millions of people. They will claim that they saved thousands of marriages, yet they will not include that many of these “marriages” are unlawful marriages of adultery. Thus, they claim they helped deceive these people…
This is very serious. I know that God sees all things and I know that Christ will return to make all things new. Nevertheless, where do we stand in all this? Do we pray for the return of Christ knowing there is no hope for these false ministries, or do we pray for revival? I am so saddened by these broadcasts and ministries that continually deceive the masses. I want it to end. I really do…Yet, if we remain passive and say not a word…What will Christ say to us? I can only do what God has called me to do…Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine. I know that more than ever that a time has come where many do not endure sound doctrine. The saddest part of all is seeing this in denominations and ministries that claim the grace and truth of the Lord Jesus Christ.
I know there are many in ministries that support one particular area such as poverty, child trafficking, abortion, persecution, and social injustice. I know the Lord leads many to these noble ministries in the name of Christ. Yet, I have been led down a road that many will not take. I do not know why…I just know that I have compassion for the truth of marriage and I have disdain for those who twist the word of God to support divorce and remarriage. I equally disdain ministries that benefit and flourish off those deceived into believing divorce and remarriage is an option. Nothing saddens me more than those who ignore the redefining of marriage that has already taken place long before the first same-sex couple walked down the aisle into apostasy.
This is my last post on this blog…for now.
I will leave this in God’s hands knowing I can only do so much…knowing I can really do nothing at all. If anything comes out of this, please know that my heart is for the grace and truth of Christ. I know that God can restore all situations where we have no power to change on our own. This is the picture of the Gospel. This is also true to any marriage where all seems lost. If you believe God designed marriage and He stood in the presence of a marriage vow…then it is best to trust Him to restore what He hath joined together. If you are the only one trusting in Him to restore a prodigal, let Him begin to restore you first. God wants each individual to submit to Him so that His work will be complete in you. Never submit to anyone who believes that a marriage is over. Only death ends a marriage and to believe otherwise is a lie from the pits of Hell.
I leave you with Paul's final words to the Galatians...
Gal 6:12 As many as desire to make a fair shew in the flesh, they constrain you to be circumcised; only lest they should suffer persecution for the cross of Christ. 13 For neither they themselves who are circumcised keep the law; but desire to have you circumcised, that they may glory in your flesh.
14 But God forbid that I should glory, save in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom the world is crucified unto me, and I unto the world.
15 For in Christ Jesus neither circumcision availeth any thing, nor uncircumcision, but a new creature.16 And as many as walk according to this rule, peace be on them, and mercy, and upon the Israel of God. 17 From henceforth let no man trouble me: for I bear in my body the marks of the Lord Jesus. 18 Brethren, the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with your spirit. Amen.
In Christ’s love,