The Escape from Reality-The Fantasy of Transgenderism and the Remarried

What do the transgender and the remarried have in common? They both live in a fantasy world with the expectation of others to join them. Both “lifestyles” are volitional choices which are not based on reality, but those who adhere to these choices expect us to believe them. I for one am not buying into either choice. I believe that transgenderism and remarriage are perfect examples of fantasy, and nothing more.

As Christians, we are called to live in the spirit and not the flesh. (Ro 8:4, 13:14; Gal 5:24,25; Eph 2:3; 1) Peter 2:11 Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul;…The war we face against our flesh is a daily occurrence and we know that the flesh and spirit are constantly at war with one another. Transgenderism is just an extension of the flesh, and the desires of the flesh…so too is remarriage.

I certainly believe that transgenderism and remarriage are not unlike each other. They both depend on the desires of the flesh and not the spirit of Christ. Some would say that transgenderism is the epitome of the desires of the flesh (while “remarriage” is fully accepted as reality). It also requires others to buy into the personal choice to alter one’s body to create this fantasy world of the opposite gender. I would be hard pressed to find a person able to perform the necessary surgery on one’s self to create the desired persona. Make-up is one thing, but plastic surgery is quite painful without anesthesia. Yet, even after they have paid the price of transformation, it comes to the part where everyone is expected to accept this transformation as reality…Not I.

I thought it would be rather interesting to do a side by side comparison of what it takes to believe in the fantasy worlds of both transgenderism and remarriage. Since this is a blog dedicated to the truth of marriage as one man and one woman for life (…not a time), it would obviously start at the beginning and the foundation as God the Creator of all things. I will use the word “both” to describe both transgenderism (TG) and remarriage (RM).  

• Both deny the Godhead and the definition of marriage as one man and one woman for life.The definition and the Law of marriage is as it was from the beginning. (Gen 2:24; Mt 19:4-6; Mk 10:6-9) These verses pretty much do away with all other forms of fleshy desires including cohabitation fornication, homosexuality, bestiality, transgenderism and dare I say…remarriage after divorce. TG tells us that we as individuals have the choice to decide what gender best suits us. TG’s even go as far as to tell us that no doctor has the right to proclaim our gender at birth, but we only have that right once we exit the womb…the right to life that is…The RM will tell us that there are “exception clauses” and other privileges which provide the right to leave a marriage vow and then make a vow to another…. just as long as we keep the “second” vow and never, ever divorce…

•   Both depend on others to turn this fantasy into reality. As mentioned earlier, a TG can only seek the appearance of a TG with the help of a plastic surgeon and lots of money! (The medical professionals who make a living off of transgenders would never denounce their medical history lessons on biology...in particular...human biology.)  Even then it is not the desire of the Lord that either gender enhance their “appearance” with outward cosmetics, rather God looks at the heart…The TG also must prove to others that he or she is who they say they are. This can only happen if others believe the same fantasy by discounting reality. RM is based on the same idea. If others believe that a divorce can end what God has joined in heaven, then it is easier to convince others with the same desire. Even more convincing is having appointed and "ordained" church leaders who divorce and remarry. Since both the TG and RM wish to appease the flesh and the earthly desires of this world, it is not very hard to convince others who also have the same desires. After all, isn’t it a fact that God wants us to be happy…or is it holy?

• Both deny God’s design of family. The TG has to convince us that he or she has the God-given attributes of the gender in which they choose to portray. Since God made them as a man or woman, they need to accept this as reality and be who God made them to be. The husband is a man who leads his wife who is a woman. The TG cannot perform the duties of the parent in this fantasy world. The RM must convince their “step-children” that they can have two dads or two moms, when the word of God never gives such permission. The pains of “step-families” can all be avoided if the remarried couples conform to reality.

• Both deny the Gospel. TG’s must convince themselves that God made a mistake. The feelings and desires of the TG are not unlike anyone else who needs a Savior. Homosexual and heterosexual feelings must be defined in light of who we are in Christ, and not who we are in the flesh. As many as there are walk in the flesh to appease the flesh, there are those who press forward and walk in the light and spirit of the Gospel. The reformed TG does not become reformed unless he or she is transformed by the grace and truth of Christ. The TG cannot walk in the spirit if they deny who they are in God’s sight.  The RM have to assume that God does not walk in whatever burden was heaped upon them in pains to divorce from their spouse of covenant. Rather than remain true to the vow of marriage, it is much easier to appease the flesh and to get what they deserve….a happy "remarriage". Marriage is a representation of the Gospel(Eph 5:31-32)...divorce and remarriage is NOT!

• Both deny the statistics. The TG suicide rate is over 40% considering that the TGs are a part of the LGBT community which is part of 4% of the overall population. The “happiness” of living in a TG lifestyle are deceiving. There is a constant threat of STD and there is an elevated percent of substance abuse among TGs. Not to mention the documented cases of botched plastic surgeries...This speaks of a further need to escape reality. The RM statistics are too extensive to deny since they are combined with those who divorce. The statistics of children of divorce do not lie.  

There is no question that the same motives behind any deviation from God’s word are the same. People want to do what is right in their own eyes rather than obey God, trust God, and remain in God’s provision.  Transgenderism and remarriage do not conform to the foundation of the Gospel and remaining in a life of the spirit. They both demand to appease the desires of the flesh and seek to undermine the power of the Holy Spirit.

It must be mentioned that the most dangerous of these is that which is widely accepted. While there are many professing believers who adamantly agree that transgenderism, homosexuality, and other sexual sins are an abomination to the Lord, they have fallen victim to believing that heterosexual cohabitation is tolerated. What is even more concerning is the total acceptance of divorce and remarriage. Divorce has truly become a thing of therapy rather than sin. There is this slow fade of accepting a sin such as a divorce to the point that one tolerates divorce for any reason. We have reached such a place in history…and will it one day reach a point that we can accept whatever seems right in one’s eyes? God helps us if it should.

Isaiah 5:20-21 Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!
Woe unto them that are wise in their own eyes, and prudent in their own sight!

In Christ's love,

Neil