This is the first part of a five-part post, entitled “More Harm, than Good"
There is one decision a person must make in life that will have eternal implications. The saying goes like this…"Born twice, die once….born once, die twice". Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ is the most important decision you will ever make for eternity.
John 3:3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.
The second most important decision in a person’s life, besides faith in Christ, is making a vow of marriage. Marriage is not something we should ever take lightly. Marriage is God’s grace to humankind and represents Christ’s love for His church. I have already posted about the significance of marriage in this post here. Therefore, it is not necessary to go into detail of the importance of the one-flesh marriage vow. It is necessary to show the truth of marriage “after” we die and be with the Lord. Marriage is a temporary covenant that is significant to humankind. Death is the only way a marriage bond is broken in ones lifetime. The Lord explains this temporary marriage in the three synoptic Gospels. I reference Luke’s account…
Jesus’ answer to the Sadducees…Luke 20:34 And Jesus answering said unto them, The children of this world marry, and are given in marriage: 35 But they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain that world, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in marriage: 36 Neither can they die any more: for they are equal unto the angels; and are the children of God, being the children of the resurrection.
The truth is that we will know our spouse(s) in heaven, but marriage will not be necessary because we will be with the Lord Jesus Christ. Our sufficiency will be in Him, and we will worship Him forever more. Therefore, it eternally necessary we understand the significance of our marriage on earth. This is where I believe it is necessary to explain the title of this blog and the significance of the permanence of marriage. There are certain family ministries that have tremendous influence on families and marriages. One of theses ministries is Focus on the Family, and the founder, Dr. James Dobson.
Focus on the Family (FOTF)is a Christian ministry that provides invaluable information to families and marriages. FOTF uses a combination of biblical truths, human philosophies, and medical expertise to account for their incredible inventory of materials, information, programs, and guidance. They offer many programs that cover the children, family, singles, parenting, marriages, social issues, divorce recovery, and relationships.
I want to make this clear. FOTF, and Dr. James Dobson (He has his own ministry, Dr, James Dobson’s FamilyTalk) have done incredible good to society in their ministries. There is no question their ministry is influential in restoring many marriages. However, whenever a ministry claims to use solid biblical truths as a foundation of their ministry, it is the responsibility of every believer to contend for the faith and test to see if these ministries are true.
I have concluded that FOTF, and Dr. James Dobson have done more harm on their biblical stance of marriage, divorce, and remarriage, than good. They have also done more harm to families and generations of families with their less than sound foundational truths. I want it to be also clear that this revelation is not an attempt to slander FOTF or Dr. James Dobson as it is an exhortation; seeking to bring about change, or repentance, if you will. In order to make this claim, one needs evidence to support such a claim…even then, it will require a conviction by the Holy Spirit and believing what God’s word says even if we have been lead by whatever or whoever to believe otherwise.
I carefully read and considered Dr. James Dobson’s three premises on why he believes divorce and remarriage are optional to a one-flesh covenant that no man may break. You can find these premises and the answer the following question on his website, here.
The question states…”There are so many differing opinions about what the Bible says regarding divorce. Does Dr. Dobson believe that it's okay for Christians to get divorced?”“Dr. Dobson has opposed divorce as an answer to marital discord with everything that is within him, and he is compelled to take issue with those who attempt to reinterpret the Scriptures on this subject. He believes that when Jesus said marriage is for life, He meant it!”
“Nevertheless, he feels that there are three occasions when divorce and remarriage appear to be justified in Scripture:”…
The first question I had concerning this introduction to these premises was this: Where did Jesus say “nevertheless” to a one-flesh marriage covenant? In one sentence, Dr. Dobson will say in so many words that marriage is a lifetime one-flesh covenant no man may break…. He believes that when Jesus said marriage is for life, He meant it! Yet he follows this up with “nevertheless.”
This is how I believe scripture clearly defines marriage, divorce, and remarriage. This gives no options for divorce and certainly no options for remarriage after divorce. If scripture exposes these three premises for what I believe is a clear breach in the marriage covenant, then these premises must be thoroughly rejected. I will begin the second part of this series by answering and questioning the first premise. I will put his premise to the test and see if it stands against the Gospel, and the word of God.
Again, I do not seek to disparage or slander these ministries; I seek to expose the truth so that change can occur. I solely rely on the power of the Holy Spirit by reading the word of God and believing what it says. I dearly love these ministries and these leaders as Christ loved me, and love never rejoices in iniquity, love always rejoices in the truth.
(Continue to part 2, More Harm, Than Good.)
(Continue to part 2, More Harm, Than Good.)
In Christ’s love.